Slide1“Happily” can be “ever after.”

Peter and Evie Kozak know this to be true.

Both were born in Alberta during the Depression.

They were familiar with hardship.

Each suffered through the death of a spouse.

What endears the Kozaks most to those who know them best is that the adversity around them had not embittered the attitudes within them.

Together For Life

Their lives were lived close enough to share in each other’s milestones, but miles apart in day-to-day experience.

That is until Saturday May 25, 2013.

On that day, these two octogenarians came together to exchange vows that would unite them in marriage.

In front of over three hundred exuberant family members and friends Peter and Evelyn committed to love each other come what may…richer or poorer, good times or bad, sickness or in health.

The new Mr. and Mrs. sealed their vows with a memorable kiss!

Marriage is the union of two good kissers and more importantly, two good forgivers.


Peter and Evelyn coming together was a priceless reminder of the strength of marriage.

Marriage is about companionship, friendship, and just plain sharing life. It’s about having someone to talk to and even vent to.

As a pastor I’ve learned that the most unhappy people in the world are not those who are single and wish they were married, but those who are married and wish they were single.

How do you strike the original match?

4 Things To Fan the Flames of Love:

1. Act lovingly.

Feelings always follow actions.

An unhappy wife sought the advice of a friend in how to divorce her husband.

Her husband had neglected her for work and sports for years. She’d had enough. The friend suggested that before she initiated legal proceedings she make him regret his behavior. So she advised the wife that for a whole month she should treat her husband with more love and attention that he had ever felt and then tell him she was leaving him.

A few months later she saw her friend again. She looked so much happier. Putting two and two together she asked, “When did you divorce him?” “Divorce him? I love him!”

2. Keep your vows and they will keep you.

Marriage is a covenant, secured by promises.

The vows couples make to each other create an island of certainty in an ocean of uncertainty.

No one knows what the future holds. Things change. People change. Vows mean that no matter what changes they can rely on each other. That creates their “happily ever after.”

Some say that wedding rings are the world’s tiniest handcuffs. They are more like rubber bands that when a couple pulls apart, a tug reminds them that they belong together.

3. Practice forgiving.

Forgiveness is the only way to change an unchangeable past.

To forgive is not forgetting.

Forgiving is a gift you give yourself.

Its the only way to release yourself from the hurts done to you.

4. Try kissing.

‘Nuff said.

If you don’t know how, ask Evie and Peter.

APPLICATION: Which of the four things do you practice the best? Please leave a comment below. Thank you.

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Bob Jones

Author Bob Jones

Pastor at North Pointe Community Church for 28 years. Happily married to Jocelyn for 39 years. We have two adult sons, Cory and his wife Lynsey and their son Vinnie and daughter Jayda; Jean Marc and his wife Angie and their three daughters, Quinn, Lena and Annora. I love being a pastor and inspiring faith in Jesus through communicating, blogging, counseling and coaching. I enjoy running, reading, writing and ball hockey. Fan of the Esks and Pats. Follow me on Twitter @bobjones49ers

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Join the discussion 7 Comments

  • interesting spin on mentorship. Seriously, Peter and Evelyn are sparkling examples of perseverance, optimism, and reportedly, kissing, all goodthings to be known for…

    Thanks for your top drawer example.

  • bob jones says:

    The Kozaks are one of the happiest couples at North Pointe, and that says a lot because there are a multitude of happy couples at North Pointe.

  • adena lowry says:

    True widsom. Such an example to us all. Thank you for sharing your story. You can never “love someone to death”, only “love someone to life!” Nor can you kill someone with kindness.

  • bob jones says:

    Those last two sentences are great insights to a “happily ever after.”

  • Rick Forges says:

    Forgiving and trusting is not the same thing , forgiveness is given but trust has to be earned.

  • bob jones says:

    Good observation, Rick.

  • Evelyn Anderson-Kozak says:

    We are truly happy for the gift of each other, and also for our families, the host of friends and God”s many blessings. Thank you Pastor Bob for this article presenting “Fans to Keep the Flame of Love.”

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