Your EQ (Emotional Quotient) is more important than your IQ.
Emotional health is a blessing from God and a powerful resource because the end result of emotional health is love for others.
We can’t afford to get that wrong.
5 Things To Stop Doing To Your Emotional Health
1. Stop qualifying emotions as “good” and “bad.”
There are no “good” or “bad” emotions. There are emotions.
Too often people think of anger, jealousy, resentment, envy, shame, or fear as bad emotions. We feel defective as people of faith when we feel the “wrong” things.
Some take the view even further and see these emotions as sin, in that “it’s a sin to feel anger or jealousy, or envy.” We then lie to ourselves, convincing ourselves that we don’t really feel anything because we shouldn’t be feeling “that way.”
2. Stop ignoring your emotions.
Ignoring your emotions turns your back on reality. Reality is where you meet God.
There are literally hundreds of emotions. The Book of Psalms contains many of them.
- Anger (fury, irritability, annoyance)
- Sadness (self-pity; despair)
- Fear (fright; anxiety, terror)
- Enjoyment (joy, ecstasy, contentment
- Love (acceptance, adoration)
- Surprise (shock, amazement, wonder)
- Disgust (scorn distaste)
- Shame (guilt, humiliation, embarrassment)
It’s in these emotions that God meets you. They are the language of your soul.
3. Stop denying yourself permission to express your feelings.
You can express how you feel or repress how you feel. If you swallow your feelings your stomach ends up keeping score. A large majority of the illness people face are the subject of repressed feelings and not trusting God.
We deny our feelings by making statements like:
“Anger is dangerous.”
“Fear is weakness.”
“Anxiety goes against what the Bible says.”
“Feeling depressed is outside of God’s will.”
The Bible says, “Be angry and sin not.” (Ephesians 3:28) There are ways to feel an emotion and express it that do not hurt yourself or others.
4. Stop pretending that hurtful things don’t hurt.
Break free to live in the truth of what’s taking place within you.
Acknowledge your brokenness and vulnerability.
Break free of generational patterns of family and culture that negatively shape how you live and relate.
5. Stop limiting your worship of God to only some emotions.
The Old Testament Psalms were written to illustrate emotional health.
The Jewish religion sings of sadness, joy, fear, peace, anger, contentment and disappointment as worship. That’s a healthy practice.
Psalm 55:3-5,16,17 contain words sung during Saturday morning sacred worship in the Temple. The Psalmist writes,
“My thoughts trouble me and I am distraught…My heart is in anguish within me; the terrors of death have fallen on me. Fear and trembling have beset me; horror has overwhelmed me.
But I call to God and the Lord saves me. Evening morning and noon I cry out in distress and He hears my voice.”
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