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WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHY

By March 7, 2013 2 Comments

It was one of those requests you can’t forget. A young couple’s 6 month-old son died of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). He was their only child.

Would you please come over?

The living room was full of family members when I arrived. Tears flowed freely.

Can you help us?

WHY?

Their worst nightmare was visited by a recurring question, “WHY?”

* An elementary-aged student, on his way to a happy day at school, stepped off a curb into an intersection. He never saw the bus. His too young life was over. “WHY?”

* A young woman, driving home after a wonderful evening with friends, was broad-sided by a drunk driver. Her parents would never hear one more “I love you,” from their daughter. “WHY?”

More Questions, Not Less

Some people worry that questioning God is an affront to Him.

God is not offended by questions.

In fact God wants you to ask more questions, not less.

He invites you to add to “Why,” your “Where?” “What?” “Who?” “How?” and “When?”

“Where are you God?”

“What now?”

“Who can help me?”

“How can I move forward?”

“When does the hurting stop?”

Holding on to Hope

Nancy Guthrie watched her two children die – a girl and a boy – each before they turned 6 months old.

For much of the first year after each of their deaths, when asked how she felt, she responded, “I am deeply and profoundly sad.”

Questioning was one of Nancy’s ways of grieving.

She discovered hope in the Book of Job, from a man who received no answers to his questions, but found God.

Answers To Job’s Questions

Job lost everything – his family – 7 sons and 3 daughters and their families, and his fortune – all in one day.

His agony was so intense his wife suggested that he, “Curse God and die.”

Job questioned, rather curse.

In the end, Job said, “Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know. You said, ‘Listen now, and I will speak; I will question you, and you shall answer me.’ My ears have heard of you but now my eyes have seen you.” Job 42:2-5 (New International Version)

Grief’s Work

Rather than shying away from questions, we need to lean into them – because over time they help us discover God and ourselves.

Grief doesn’t need answers.

Grief needs time and hope.

A 1st century questioner wrote, “We are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit.” 2 Corinthians 4:8,9 (Today’s Living Bible).

Don’t give up asking questions.

Don’t quit on God.

Hold on to hope.

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Bob Jones

Author Bob Jones

Pastor at North Pointe Community Church for 27 years. Happily married to Jocelyn for 38 years. We have two adult sons, Cory and his wife Lynsey and their son Vinnie; Jean Marc and his wife Angie and their three gorgeous daughters, Quinn, Lena and Annora. I love being a pastor and inspiring faith in Jesus through communicating, blogging, counseling and coaching. I enjoy running, reading, writing and ball hockey. Fan of the Esks and Pats. Follow me on Twitter @bobjones49ers

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