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The Power of 2nd Chances: The Kellys’ Story

By October 15, 2014 5 Comments

2nd chances are a gift from God.

His 20-year marriage had just ended. Rick didn’t expect to see anything positive from the ordeal.

Her 25-year marriage also ended in divorce. Jan’s expectations of the future were few in number and a “happily-ever-after” wasn’t one of them.Slide1

Jan jokes that the end of her marriage was her fault. “I couldn’t get along with my husband’s girlfriend – even though she was my best friend!”

Rick was worried about the legal costs and shared custody of his young daughter. He hit rock bottom.

A GODWINK

When a friend shared that there’s hope through faith in Jesus Christ, Rick accepted Jesus into his life and started to attend church.

It was no coincidence that the church Rick picked was the one Jan attended.

Jan befriended Rick.

What started as a friendship culminated in a new life for both of them – in more ways than one.

8 YEARS LATER

When they re-married, neither could have imagined it would ultimately save Rick’s life.

After eight years, Rick’s kidneys began to fail.

Jan was a perfect match.

They were joined together in more ways than you can consider.

“We realized that God had a plan. It was meant to be.”

SECOND CHANCES

Feeling invigorated after being given a 2nd chance at life and marriage, Rick approached his pastor at North Pointe, about starting a DivorceCare support group.

The ministry encourages healing through friendship, community and support for all individuals in every stage of the divorce process.

Some churches are averse to facilitate a ministry focused on Divorce. Not North Pointe – DivorceCare fits right into the culture of “come as you are.”

North Pointe is a culture of 2nd chances.

HARDSHIP AND HOPE

The Kellys are sharing their story because they had the experience of losing a marriage and getting a 2nd chance.

They could offer hope to people going down the same road by coming along side them.

All too often divorced people feel rejected by friends, families, even church communities.

They don’t see where they fit. They see themselves as failing.

Rick and Jan knew the trouble and hardship divorced people face: financial difficulties, breaking up families, heartache, legal problems.

THE POWER OF EMPATHY

God had led Rick and Jan through very difficult times in their lives. Now was the time to give back.

The Kellys held their first 13-week session in Januray 2011, using videos and group discussions. A third facilitator, Wendy Connors, helped keep the conversations on track.

Since then over 100 people have gone through the Divorce Care ministry. Some have found their way into the North Pointe community. All have found empathy, support and hope.

DivorceCare reassures participants that their value as a person is important. Topics include depression, loneliness, child care, reconciliation, finances, and emotional health.

DivorceCare participants met people on a similar journey.

It was clear to see things getting better for them for the mere fact that they showed up.

When the course was completed participants had new friends, new interests and new hope.

FINDING HOPE AND HEALING

We can’t fix marriages.

We’re there to listen.

We’re not particularly skillful at anything other than the fact that we care for people.

We want them to get better, and continue forward in their own lives.

Nobody can do the healing except God.

He is the God of the 2nd chance.

APPLICATION: Please leave the Kellys a comment below. Thank you.

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Bob Jones

Author Bob Jones

Pastor at North Pointe Community Church for 25 years. Happily married to Jocelyn for 36 years. We have two adult sons, Cory and his wife Lynsey and their son Vinnie; Jean Marc and his wife Angie and their three gorgeous daughters, Quinn, Lena and Annora. I love being a pastor and inspiring faith in Jesus through communicating, blogging, counseling and coaching. I enjoy running, reading, writing and ball hockey. Fan of the Esks and Pats. Follow me on Twitter @bobjones49ers

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Join the discussion 5 Comments

  • Wendy Connors says:

    I remember the first time you told me your story, I was in awe of God’s plan that clearly unfolded in your lives. There is no doubt God brought you together. It was an honor to facilitate with you and bless you for continuing to serve so many through Divorce Care. Thank you for sharing the hope of second chances as your journey is truly an example.

  • Jocelyn Jones says:

    God’s grace in action, thanks for sharing your story.

  • Rick and Jan Kelly says:

    Jan and I are humbled for you to share our story. We do not share to boast about anything we do but rather what God does for us!

  • Kathy says:

    What an inspiring story – serving in a capacity that brings hope to those who may experience a great deal of despair. Clearly God is present in your lives. Thank you for sharing.

  • Ed and Carol Holownia says:

    A few years ago at “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner”, you both shared just some of your story. We were so amazed at the goodness of God demonstrated in your lives. Now as we hear the whole story in more detail we just are more amazed and grateful that we serve such a wonderful God who is interested in every detail and gives a second chance. God has certainly used you to help so many people.

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