16 LESSONS OF HOPEEmotional wounds, while not as clearly evident as physical ones, are just as painful and your body reacts to this type of pain as to a physical wound.

Some positive person said that “suffering perfects our character.” That’s not guaranteed. Some people become meaner and intolerable to live with because of suffering. Oswald Chambers says suffering “only perfects one type of person…the one who accepts the call of God in Christ Jesus.”

I’ve known Leta Montague for over ten years. Leta went through the pain of her husband leaving, a divorce and then alienation from family. She hit rock bottom – emotionally, psychologically and sometimes physically.

Leta chronicles her journey to forgiveness and healing in her book, “Open Wounds, Open Heart, Open Hands,” 

Leta weaves her personal story alongside the similar stories of biblical personalities who deal with the issues of hurts and wounds in relationships and moving to wholeness.

crucible16 Lessons of Hope for Those Who Hurt:

1. Suffering is like going through a desert wilderness. Broken promises and relationships burn us deeply. Its difficult to survive if you are there by yourself.

2. The danger of undisciplined anger is that it makes us vulnerable and we forget about our common sense.

3. “Forgiveness is a choice and if I wanted God to continue to use me I could not nurse my anger.”

4. Our reaction is just as important as the other person’s action.

5. Refusing to forgive leaves an open wound in our soul that festers and turns into resentment, bitterness and anger.

6. If you have complaints of constant stress, headaches, insomnia, depression and high blood pressure what is your forgiveness level?

7. The goal of getting to a healthy place where we have no animosity or hatred towards people who have wounded us is not an impossible dream.

8. Each pain, wound and trial is an opportunity to get closer to God and to make Him the centre of our future.

9. Remind yourself several times a day – “I am not my past.”

10. People do not have the final say in our destiny.

11. We are not able to love the people who wound us through our own strength but we can love them through Christ.

12. In the wilderness I developed a relationship with God that I never had before.

13. Forgiveness is a conscious decision on the part of the one who was wounded to release the person who has wounded.

14. “I pinned a cross on my wall and pinned the names of those who wounded me on the cross.”

15. Prayer leaves no room for revenge or unforgiveness.

16. Our reward for forgiving people who wound us is freedom from a bitter root growing in us; peace through the Holy Spirit and a stronger, more enduring faith in God.

That my friends is called victorious living! Read more about Let’s work with the “Empowered Women of Hope Association” here.

APPLICATION: What did you learn from reading these hi-lites in Leta’s book? You can purchase a copy at North Pointe’s bookstore.


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Bob Jones

Author Bob Jones

Pastor at North Pointe Community Church for 27 years. Happily married to Jocelyn for 38 years. We have two adult sons, Cory and his wife Lynsey and their son Vinnie; Jean Marc and his wife Angie and their three gorgeous daughters, Quinn, Lena and Annora. I love being a pastor and inspiring faith in Jesus through communicating, blogging, counseling and coaching. I enjoy running, reading, writing and ball hockey. Fan of the Esks and Pats. Follow me on Twitter @bobjones49ers

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Join the discussion 9 Comments

  • Cynthia says:

    I just love the 16 lessons of hope. “Prayer leaves no room for revenge or unforgiveness”. That’s beautiful. When you are hurt these two things take the forefront. Only thing that will give peace and stop us from getting into these is Prayer and pinning them to the cross.

  • CD Mayo says:

    This week has been profound for me, learning how to approach God first and then approach my relationships.

    This blog reminded me that hurt can be turned around and turned into a calling. Perhaps there is a calling in my pain. May God reveal it to me completely!

    I am certainly a work in progress when it comes to parenting, marriage and friendships but I pray that God will continue to transform me so I might become what He calls me to be and so I can unconditionally love and accept others.

  • bob jones says:

    So glad the lessons were helpful. “Pinning” hurts on the cross is healing process. Thanks Cynthia for commenting.

  • bob jones says:

    Thanks CD for commenting. It takes courage and faith to turn hurt around and see how God can use it on our lives.

  • Jocelyn Jones says:

    I am most miserable without hope!

  • bob jones says:

    Amen.

  • Cynthia says:

    I totally agree that physical wounds are easy to recognize, treat them, though they may leave a external scar. But the emotional wounds are not so open. But they are the most destructive ones, unless we seek help and surrender to HIS will and purpose. His Grace is sufficient for us. Thank you Lord,

  • bob jones says:

    Sometimes its hard for wounded people to seek help if they don’t know where to turn for help. Help needs to be trustworthy, compassionate and competent. Our support ministries can be a starting place for people. http://www.northpointechurch.ca/programs/family-support Thanks, Cynthia!

  • Cynthia says:

    So true. I have recently come to know of a family who lost their father (Cancer) 5 years ago and struggling with the loss. I lost my 21 year old son 15 years ago. I have been praying I will be able to lead them back to God and a worship place not by preaching, but my faithful living.. Please pray with me for this family. Thanks.

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